Writings

From Secret Boyfriends to Fake Affairs: A Sex Therapy Take on Netflix’s Big Mistakes If you spent your weekend glued to the couch binging Dan Levy’s hilarious and chaotic new Netflix comedy, Big Mistakes, you are definitely not alone. Between the wild plot twists and the snappy dialogue, the show is an absolute goldmine of

Ancestral Healing: Are You Carrying Your Grandparents’ or Parents’ Sexual Trauma? Eight years ago, I took a road trip with my mother to visit family in Arizona. On that drive, the landscape of my life changed forever. It was during those hours on the road that I learned about our family’s hidden secret: a history

How to Get Out of Your Head During Sex: 5 Simple Somatic Practices Getting in the mood can be complex. In our busy lives of juggling work, kids, family, and fluctuating energy levels, it is completely normal to find your mind drifting to your to-do list right when you want to be intimate. If you’ve

Why is Sex Painful? Finding a Path Back to Pleasure “Every pleasure or pain has a sort of rivet with which it fastens the soul to the body and pins it down and makes it corporeal, accepting as true whatever the body certifies.” — Socrates Socrates was onto something thousands of years ago: pain and

Body Neutrality in the Bedroom: How to Enjoy Sex When You Don’t Love Your Reflection We are often told that loving yourself unconditionally is the prerequisite for a good sex life. But for many of us, that feels like a mountain too high to climb. If you’ve ever found yourself turned away from your partner

Why Do I Have Dark Sexual Fantasies? Understanding Sexual Shadow Work “Perhaps everything terrible in us is, in its deepest being, something helpless needing our help.” — Rainer Maria Rilke If you have ever had a thought, a dream, or a persistent fantasy that felt “wrong,” “dirty,” or even “monstrous,” you are not alone. Many

Critical Update: How New Laws in Colorado are Changing Sex Therapy in 2026 On March 31, 2026, the landscape of mental health and sexual freedom in Colorado shifted significantly. The U.S. Supreme Court’s decision to strike down Colorado’s ban on conversion therapy for minors, combined with the rollout of new age-verification laws, has left many