Writings

Navigating the “No”: How to Reject an Advance Without Triggering Your Partner Saying “no” to physical intimacy can feel like walking through an emotional minefield. If you are struggling with how to reject an advance without triggering your partner, you are likely caught between two heavy fears: the fear of compromising your own bodily boundaries,

Are We Broken? Or Are We Just Disconnected? Understanding Desire Mismatch for Couples A Sex Therapy Approach to Cultivating Desire and Connection When you and your partner aren’t on the same page sexually, it is painfully easy to start asking: Are we broken, or are we just disconnected? Experiencing a desire mismatch for couples, known

Great Sex Without an Erection: 5 Ways to Play with a Soft Penis Exploring sex without an erection can transform your intimate life by taking the pressure off performance and expanding what pleasure can look like. In a culture obsessed with rigid sexual scripts, there is a pervasive misconception that sex must immediately grind to

Why Do I Love My Partner But Don’t Want to Have Sex With Them? If you find yourself lying in bed, looking at the person you love most in the world, and wondering, “Why do I love my partner but don’t want to have sex with them?” …please take a deep breath. Experiencing low desire

Pleasure as a Pathway to Healing, Not Performance When you look at the news and feel like the world is on fire, prioritizing physical joy might seem trivial or even indulgent. How can we justify turning our attention to sensation when there is so much chaos around us? But if we pause and rethink what

Spontaneous vs. Responsive Desire: The Science of How to Get in the Mood for Sex In this blog: arousal, desire, getting in the mood, “Come As You Are” by Emily Nagoski How many times have you sat on the couch, looked at your partner, and thought, “I love them, but I am just completely not

If you have been diagnosed with Polycystic Ovary Syndrome (PCOS), or suspect you might have it, you are witnessing a historic pivot in women’s healthcare. A landmark global consensus published in The Lancet and backed by over 50 professional organizations, including the Endocrine Society, formally renamed PCOS to Polyendocrine Metabolic Ovarian Syndrome (PMOS). For decades,

We live in an intensely heady culture. Most of us spend our days trapped above the neck in analyzing, overthinking, and relying on mental processes to navigate our lives. In doing so, we frequently overlook the deep somatic intelligence residing in the lower body. I am specifically talking about the gut and the womb. While

Why Stress Kills Your Sex Drive: How Cortisol Steals Your Libido This blog covers: somatic sex therapy · hormones · nervous system · libido · stress and desire If you have been stressed out and completely not in the mood for sex, you are not broken. Your body is doing exactly what it was designed